As we begin to heal together as a nation, some of us are taking steps to unite our families that have fallen apart over the past few years. Doing this is no easy task, but an important one we must attempt to rebuild is to fully move forward and elevate ourselves to a better way of living.
There may be feelings of fear and uncertainty regarding rebuilding relationships with estranged family members for various reasons. Understand that there will always be hesitation and reluctance with some of your family members, but choosing to be the build to help rebuild and bring everyone back together as a whole unit is a worthwhile endeavor. It is an act of unconditional love and forgiveness.
Start Small
A crucial key is to start small. Don't have a big overarching plan to bring everyone together. Anything like a reunion will create more problems than resolve. Work one-on-one with your estranged family member, or members, first, and then work with them on rebuilding ties with each member of your family. This is a more realistic way as you can focus on the challenges of each dynamic in the relationship and be patient with them as needed. The best strategy is, to begin with, the family members who are most willing to resolve conflicts and are more likely to forgive any trespasses.
Remove All Expectations
Set zero expectations. This may seem like the opposite of the mindset of manifesting, but what it does is create openness and willingness to allow Divine Timing to play itself out. Even though you may be putting out in the Universe the desire to unite your family, it may take time and further personal growth for all family members to want that. Know that you are in the right state of mind and ready to receive, but be willing to allow others free will and follow their life path to bring them to the same decision.
Affirm Healthy Boundaries
It's essential to make sure you have set the intention of accountability and understanding consequences. When there are no boundaries in relationships, it is hard to have healthy ones. This is usually why there are conflicts and torn apart families when there is a value disagreement. Set the boundaries of discussions and accepted behavior beforehand, so the family member who is an outsider understands their limits and their new role within the family.
Build on Common Ground
Find what brings you together and build upon that. When families become dysfunctional, it is because there is not enough common ground between them. We often take for granted that being in the same family unit is common ground enough. It's not. Work to understand what values you share and what interests you share and begin anew with that in mind. This may take time and discussion of past events to understand what brings you together and tears you apart.
Remember The Greater Good
Taking steps to unite your own family is an opportunity to rebuild our country for the greater good. We all inspire each other, and bringing back disgruntled family members into your life may seem like a bad idea, but it's not. They will be influenced by you and the role you set yourself. Whether they like it or not, you will become an example of how to be a better person, and that will encourage them to be better despite any initial misgivings.