Relationships in love, in my opinion, have always been one of the most challenging subjects for me.
I have always had trouble connecting, not only connecting but also seeing through the lies. I've had moments where at a very young age, I was experiencing anxiety attacks. I literally used to not even understand why I felt like I was dying when this other individual wasn't around me or in contact with me. I used to go bye-bye, how it could literally make me feel like my entire world had stopped.
This put me in the mindset to search and find out why these feelings were happening. After months of research, I stumble upon the word codependency. It is usually compared to drugs, alcohol, things that are toxic, but it can also be a person.
I grew up in even though my early twenties as a co-dependent person who depended on people to make me happy. It was the worst because not only was I holding on to people that I should have been releasing. I held people I was dating and people I knew at a higher standard than myself. You have to value your time more than you value the next person.
Once you start holding yourself higher than anybody else in your life, they'll know that that's how they have to come at you because not only do you demand it, you provide it for yourself. That's why being self-sufficient self-fulfilled is necessary for you to be with the next person.
I have looked into many people's situations and have told them that they're not happy themselves while trying to be with the next person. Of course, they didn't like it, and they swore up and down that they were 100% okay with being alone. I just can tell that there's a difference between somebody who's at peace with themselves and okay with being by themselves versus a person who needs fulfillment from someone else.
It just hits different when you come at any other individual with self-confidence, self-assurance, and self-belief in their mind. They're looking at you like, okay, she must be this, or he must be this because that's how they conduct themselves. Therefore you're demanding it. Even if it takes you ten years to get to know yourself, I promise you those teen years will be more fruitful and more valuable than getting to know any other person on this planet.
You're beautiful, and yourself has probably been screaming at you for attention. So show yourself some love and treat yourself.
Psychic Storm Foxx