During times of grief, you will feel an ebb and flow of both extreme sorrow and joy, and this is entirely natural. You will also feel guilt for feeling happiness or moving forward. These feelings are also common and nothing to worry or obsess about having. Allow yourself to ebb and flow as needed.
These keys won't just help you with dealing with any loss you are experiencing. It will help you react more readily and lovingly towards your friends and family who are grieving.
Self-Compassion
The biggest thing you can give yourself during times of loss and grief is self-compassion. Go easy on yourself, not hard. You will have hard days, and you will have days when you feel terrific about life. Allow yourself space and time to grapple with this change in your life and adjust to your mindset.
Grief challenges us to face our own mortality and what life means. You may feel yourself re-evaluating your life purpose and may feel the need to make massive changes. Also, you may feel paralyzed and not want to do anything at the same time. Whatever is needed for you will shift when the time is ready. Give yourself love and let go of judgment during this process. You will be grateful you allowed yourself this time for personal growth and healing in whatever shape it takes.
Patience
Don't rush the process no matter what anyone else says. If you need more time, then that is a personal insight specific to the loss you are feeling. Some of us need more time than others, and sometimes grief impacts us differently.
Meditate, seek therapy and support, make sure to practice self-care during this time. You will ebb and flow with perceived progress, but that is all a part of how grief works. It's a journey, but never a linear one.
Lower Your Expectations
If you set your expectations too high, you will complicate your grief and create depression. It is possible for people to experience burnout from not allowing themselves to grief and being too hard on themselves.
The best thing you can do to approach your journey with grief is to have zero expectations. Be open to where the path leads you and experience the journey of loss in whatever shape or form it takes. You do not have to arrive at a set time for a specific part of the grieving process, no matter what anyone tells you.