If you approach everything you experience with a sense of curiosity, you will find that the stress of any significant change will be met with a sense of joy and gratitude. This is because interest is at the heart of our inner child and feelings of eternal happiness. When you carry with you this feeling, you will experience the world with a lighter heart and an open mind. Curiosity is the one sense that reshapes your perspective while you are still experiencing them and can help you be stuck inside a negative mindset.
Re-evaluate
The moment you feel disappointed with someone or something in your life, ask yourself if this was the expected outcome. Sometimes, we miss signs or clues, especially when we are caught up in the moment with our feelings. Take time to journal and write a pro and cons list regarding everything. This will help us heal and help us understand everything that led up to it much better. We may even realize that after the disappointment has settled that we are better off in the long-term.
Lessons Learned
After re-evaluating, you may find yourself seeing the lessons gained from the situation. Perhaps you were disappointed by someone, and now you know the signs of what to look for in the future to avoid having a relationship with them. This is especially true of having relationships with people who are narcissistic or sociopathic. They can sneak under our radar until we're too invested and caught up in their worldview to see anything clearly. When we decide to take away the lessons learned from them and their events, we come out of it a much wiser and healthier person.
Reframe
To reframe a situation or a person, we start by looking at it from a different perspective. We look at it from other people's views but from an omniscient perspective that sees the effects over time and everything that created the situation. Taking away a lesson learned is one way to reframe, but reframing is also about looking at what others gained. It's a more holistic approach to viewing a negative situation and turning it into a positive experience.
Change Paths
A healthy mindset is one that decides to change paths after spending time re-evaluating disappointment. Disappointment can often be an indicator that you were in the wrong direction, to begin with. Sometimes we have our expectations too high, or we are inflexible to adapt to seeing things fully. We want something or someone in a specific way that may not be the genuine way that everything is. When we decide to change paths, we may be choosing something else or someone else that is better aligned with our values and goals.
Reconcile With Others
After experiencing disappointment, it is important to reconsider how our relationships with others have altered over time. If you were stubborn about sticking with someone or something, maybe it shifted people away from you. If this is the case, it may be time to reconcile with friends or family who had become distant from you. By sharing your disappointment with them and being vulnerable with them, you may be able to recover and rebuild those relationships, and that reconciliation may help you heal over time.
Take Time for Rejuvenation
Taking time for yourself and allowing yourself to heal and replenish yourself is a significant way to use disappointment for the better. Step into more self-care, relax, and unwind as you re-evaluate your life purpose. Meditate, take walks in Nature, nap. Do what your heart, mind, and body need to replenish yourself. It may be the best way for you to handle the disappointment and move forward. Sometimes all we need is a little love and compassion from ourselves.
Learn New Things
When we discover new things or ideas to learn and invest our time in, we begin to open our minds and let go of disappointment. New ideas help us to reinvent ourselves and reignite our sense of wonder. Read a book on something you want to learn more about or take a class on a skill you'd like to acquire, all of this can help you with the feelings of disappointment while working everything out in the back of your mind. You may find that learning new things allows you to integrate all of the ways mentioned above while helping you move forward with life.