When we live in a world where we create limitations, we can shrink our lives to the point where we have lost our purpose. It is effortless to go down this path and this way of thinking, but it can also be tough to remove ourselves from it once it's ingrained in our subconscious mind.
Learning healthy boundaries takes time and patience, but it can help clear the confusion and set you on your course accordingly with some practice.
Release what is nonessential
Defining for you what is essential and nonessential may seem challenging as we often put our desires within these categories. Take inventory of your life and see the patterns. What is weighing you down? And, more importantly, why does it weigh you down? Answering these questions will help you, but they will take time to understand and uncover. You may even be surprised where the journey leads you.
Look also as to what takes up time and energy. Can it be delegated? Often we will manage more than we can handle. See if you can't free up time and energy by having someone take a chore or hire a resource.
Gain clarity
Spend time meditating, journaling, and doing inner work to clarify what you want out of life and what makes you happy and unhappy.
If you spend too much time on what brings you dissatisfaction because you believe it will lead you to joy, you will find that it may create the opposite effect in trifold. There is something to be said about learning a skill, but at a certain point you feel that there is no joy to be had in doing it, then it's time to reassess where you see yourself going with it. Sometimes we take up a hobby because it allows us to grow and learn, which is exciting and can open us to opportunities to meet new people.
Also, keep in mind that something that makes you unhappy may serve a purpose in your life. Not everything in life is exciting. Take, for instance, essential tasks like cleaning and taking out the trash. Some things we do are part of our health and wellbeing. Make sure to consider that while you are gaining clarity, and maybe you can add some creativity to the task to make it feel more interesting than it is.
Focus on what matters most to you
It is easy to get distracted with things that don't matter in the big picture. When we get consumed by worries and fears, we lose sight of our purpose, let alone our boundaries. Focusing your attention on what matters most will clear your mind and keep your boundaries set where they need to be. If you need to do a self-inventory check to reaffirm what's essential as a reminder, do it. It will help re-establish those boundaries and clarify what your purpose in this life is.
Defines your self-worth
When we set boundaries, we are telling people how to treat us. How we expect others to respond to us is a reflection of our inner selves. Do you love yourself? What is your inner worth? When we come from a place of knowing and understanding this, we set healthy boundaries. This type of grounding helps guide us throughout our day and allows us to repeatedly define our path in life, even if we stray or get lost. Be clear about your boundaries and your value, and you will find your purpose is evident. You matter.
Attracts the right people and opportunities
By allowing the right vibration of people and opportunities to come towards us, we release all that doesn't belong to us. This is how boundaries help us understand our purpose. It becomes clear through the process of elimination and drawing what belongs to us to see where our path in life is leading towards after all. We are no longer distracted by things that are meant to teach us lessons but are driven by synergy by the flow of the Universe that helps us thrive and grow to a higher level of being. When you are in the right place with the right people, you will find you are no longer plagued with anxiety or worry about what will happen next. You are purely living in the moment as it is meant to be.