Developing Grit To Achieve Your Goals And Feel Better About Life
Developing grit and perseverance aren't easy skills to cultivate. They build over time, experience, and learning to evolve from our mistakes. One of the critical items needed to do this is developing emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence skills require us in being self aware and open to making changes in our lives and our attitudes. We need to be motivated internally to change and not by outside sources. Another vital aspect of working with emotional intelligence is that we need to deepen our empathy. Empathy is a crucial ability that is lacking in our society these days.
Does developing grit mean that we need to stay calm and collected all the time?
It means that we need to regulate our internal set of fluctuating emotions and be what they are without judgment. It also means that we need to think before we react to what is happening around us.
Here are action steps to take to move from low emotional intelligence to high emotional intelligence
Make a list of your triggers.
Being aware of what annoys you, angers you, makes you sad or depressed, is one step towards developing grit and self perseverance. Once you have that list of triggers, you can ask yourself what you can do to work through that list and make them less of a catalyst.
Develop a thicker skin.
When you experience a trigger, try and see it from the other person's perspective. Are they trying a weak attempt at a joke? Are they having a bad day? Maybe they are just projecting their stress out on you? One could consider myriad things, but just not taking it personally and letting it go is an essential step in strengthening your emotional intelligence.
Notice when you trigger others.
We all set people off sometimes, even if we don't realize it. Consider all the communication issues you've had with people and start to list them out. See if there is a pattern. As the saying goes, ' hurt people hurt' so be open to the possibility that even your wounds might be wounding others.
Remove yourself, when needed.
The point in which you recognize where you are not adding a positive experience to a situation, a person's life, or a job, is the moment you have grown as a person with grit and perseverance. Whether it's taking yourself out for a moment, a day, or altogether, reaching that realization is a moment of emotional maturity. A person who can see this has developed emotional awareness.
Come up with emotional support strategies.
We all need assistance every so often. A strategy that helps you cope with life's ups and downs will help you bounce back quickly and more comfortably than you would if you didn't have one ready. Strategies can include a meditation practice, self-care rituals, exercise, and talking with a trusted resource. Friends and family can be great, but an online psychic can also be an excellent and private resource that can help you see the big picture.
Look for mentors.
Mentors are everywhere. Look for stories that inspire you about how someone overcame obstacles in their lives. Studying how people achieved success, happiness, or developed a lifelong sense of purpose can help enlighten you and show you how that might resonate with you. Mentors are spiritual teachers, so pay attention when one enters your life. You may find them in unexpected places, but they often come into your awareness when you need them.
Need more spiritual guidance? Consider speaking with one of our expert psychics about how they can help you with developing the power of passion and perseverance.
