Is Your Relationship Suffering From Decision Fatigue?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, your relationship might be at risk of ending due to decision fatigue.
It is one thing when couples can't agree on values or beliefs, but an even more contemptuous ordeal is daily decisions that affect our lives in small ways jeopardize our health and peace of mind in significant ways.
For example, deciding what you want to eat together can be emotionally exhausting for some couples. It can become a display of power or a struggle of indecisiveness that wears down both parties.
Other decision fatigue examples that can affect a relationship can be as simple as who drives or if you drive separately, deciding what time to go somewhere, and also selecting a movie or TV show to watch. It is tough to chill with Netflix if you can't first decide what to watch (even if you are only partially watching it!)
There are some ways you reduce decision fatigue in your relationship!
Embrace the unknown
Once you realize that the best way is to live in the moment, you will find that decision fatigue will diminish. Some choices we make are best when they are random and not as well thought out to every detail. In fact, one thing some couples do is they can incorporate an eclectic mix into their dating routine and pick something to do at random, so neither of them has to labor over the decision. Doing this will relieve your anxiety about making decisions and increase your relationship's overall wellness.
Let go of trying to make everything perfect
Perfectionism ruins everything, for nothing is ever perfect. Learn to revel and rejoice in decision failures rather than create unnecessary worry and friction in your relationship about decisions you are making together. Please make a list of the worst fears and outcomes you have and then go back and work through them together. Suppose you sit down and speak about the anxiety troubling both of you, trying to make things into an unrealistic fantasy. In that case, you will eventually ground yourselves in an unconditional and accepting relationship that can be long-lasting.
Stop worrying over making the wrong choice
Does either of you suffer anxiety after making a decision? This is where things can really go wrong with one of you. If you're fretting over decisions in the past, you live in the past and take your partner along with you. Every decision we make does cause changes in our timeline, but that is a good thing! Step into the vibration of gratitude, appreciate what you have in the now, and you will slowly let go of old beliefs that you can change the past. Let the past go, and don't worry about the decisions you make.
Lessen the need to please others
We all want to make our partners happy, but do we do that at the risk of making ourselves unhappy? Sometimes we will put off saying what we want out of fear of what our loved one might say in response. What this does is create more tension because you have one partner who is always waiting for a reply while the other is afraid to speak their truth. This makes a power struggle and can develop into larger problems outside of decision exhaustion. Say what you want rather than wait, and then you will have the ability to communicate in healthy ways.
Engage with creative exercises and problem-solving activities
One of the best ways to get over decision fatigue is to engage with creativity. Here's why: creative activities stimulate your brain to be more open and expressive with your communication. It can teach you, without even your conscious awareness, how to solve problems creatively and alter your thought patterns. You are less likely to hang onto negative beliefs and draining patterns of behaviors. In fact, even engaging in game playing can help alleviate stress and worry by letting you make decisions that are within a safe environment without consequences on your overall life.
In the end, you will want to learn how decision fatigue is affecting your relationship. Sometimes it can be a pattern of unhealthy communication patterns that have developed between the both of you. Other times it can be the anxiety of one person that is crippling the relationship. Either way, you will need to decide a plan of action to fix what isn't working and raise the quality of the connection before it is too late.
If you feel that decision fatigue is affecting your relationships, call us at 1-877-987-7792 and we can have you work one-on-one with one of relationship psychics today.
