Pandemic Dating Guidelines: Insights from Psychic Shira
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The changing romantic model has the majority of singles confused. The pandemic locked in a new, lonely reality for many singles. Dating apps are doing better than ever before, with participants going strictly (the greater percentage) off the immediate physical attraction.
Singles are choosing furry companions over that of a relationship, rather than going through the paces of actually finding "the one." Virtual dating is now the norm, with many restaurants and venues closed.
Here are a few strategies for resonant pairings:
FIRST STRATEGY
Read the profile, paying attention to the commonalities that will draw you together—having someone with the same fundamental values. Here are a few basics: Non-smoker, Spiritual (not religious), Divorced, Single (that is important!), Never been married or engaged, Professional, Blue Collar, Geographical (in the same town/state?), Age difference, Kids or no kids, Sports fanatic. Take your time reading their profiles! If you are a non-smoker, can you envision yourself dating or living with a smoker? You can immediately rule out the ones that you know have preferences or habits that lack viability in your life.
SECOND STRATEGY
Profile pictures that immediately scream NO! Here are a few examples: Bathroom pictures. In their tuxedo or wedding attire (yes, it happens!), part of the picture is cut off to show only them. Who knows who the other person in the photo is to them? Pictures of him screaming at a football game with friends Pictures of her shopping with the girls. Pictures of him holding up a freshly caught fish. Car selfies with them looking at themselves in the rearview mirror. Pictures of them hiding their ring finger. Even if there is no ring, is there a tan line? Pictures of him/her playing video games. Is that their main discretionary time activity? Images that are hypersexual or half-naked. (Unless that is what you are looking for!) Pictures that are obviously staged.
THIRD STRATEGY
Pick your words carefully in your profile. Present a sincere and uncomplicated photograph that a friend has taken for you. Pick two things that are meaningful to you to share, keep it simple. Articulate as you would if you were meeting the singles scanning your profile in person. This is your first meeting! Speak your truth rather than what you think your perspective date wants to hear. You don't have to make it about your profession! What can you share about yourself that draws the attention of the romantic partners you want to attract? Stay away from common statements, and express yourself positively.
FOURTH STRATEGY
Stay away from the ones that only want to text or message you. Establish a Virtual Date so you can experience as much of the natural dynamic as possible. If they're going to do this during odd hours, there may be a romantic triangle. Heed the dating red flags! If they put you off and keep rescheduling, they are not taking you seriously, or there is another romantic partner involved. Stop investing your time and energy in them and move on.
FIFTH STRATEGY
Connect with one person at a time. If you bounce between two or three potential partners, none of them will likely work out for you. By connecting with one person at a time, you can be fully present for the potential between you. It is easy to blur the lines and forget who said what in the context of a conversation or date. You will be able to determine rather quickly if there is any basis for a relationship.
SIXTH STRATEGY
Keep your first few dates short. If the meeting is awkward, and you say everything in the first 10-15 minutes, it will have a quick and merciful time demarkation. If it is a hit, you leave on a high note and have plenty to look forward to during the next date.
SEVENTH STRATEGY
Keep the exes out of it. Especially on the first date, please refrain from discussing exes (unless they ask, and this is a red flag!). If they ask you, answer openly, positively, and briefly. Usually, asking about previous relationships on the first date indicates their attachment or unresolved issues with exes.
EIGHTH STRATEGY
Refrain from sexual intimacy until you have a positive emotional connection. Without the emotional connection, this is another "hook up" (unless that is what you are seeking!), and you are not using your discretionary energy well. When it comes to meeting their friends and family, keep it positive and don't rush into it too quickly. Dating at least a month, and keeping it about the two of you is critical to a happy long-term pairing. If there are kids involved, please be attentive to the circumstances of introductions. Never speak badly about the other parent to them. Be the kind of adult in their life that empowers them.
NINTH STRATEGY
Texting, messaging, and phone calls: You will have a different anticipated response time that your romantic interest. You may want an immediate response, or they may feel that a gap of several hours to several days is acceptable. Go in with no expectations and get a feel for how you connect in virtual communications. If the pattern that you see does not resonate with you, thinking that you can change their communication patterning is again a waste of your time. They are established in their communication styles. While you can discuss it and cannot make peace with it, you may need to walk away.
TENTH STRATEGY
You have found someone you are genuinely interested in, and they reciprocate your feelings! Congratulations! Make sure you have the right mix of what they and you like to do pertaining to your dates. Find new things to do together so you can have legitimate "firsts" as a couple. Make sure that you listen to them and hear what they are sharing.
Don't jump ahead of yourself, and have the marriage, house, kids, car, vacation home, and life insurance policies too quickly. Be present, mindfully establishing a foundation between the two of you to build a happy, healthy, and long-term relationship.
Thank you for sharing this time—happy dating my friends.
I love you, and I believe in you.
In Divine Truth and Love,
Psychic Shira
Shira has been in the intuitive arts for over 45 years and holds certifications in (to name a few): Vibrational Healing, Tarot, Reiki (Master Teacher in several systems), Animal Reiki/healing, Bodywork Counseling (Reiki + Process Work), Matrix Energetix, and holds several degrees, including a Master's Degree in Health Care Administration. She is gifted in Dream Interpretation, psychic online reader, and offers crystal clear insight into all areas of the human perspective. Shira is a Psychic Medium and has been connecting to life-after-life since the age of 5. She offers loving, direct, and compassionate online psychic readings. Shira believes that your ability to manifest is unlimited.
