The Predicament of the Romantically Challenged Empath: Insights from Psychic Shira
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Today's topic: The Predicament of the Romantically Challenged Empath.
Being Empathic from my earliest memory, essentially feeling for other people, is a gift in my life. I can and could feel when people were out-of-balance or in need of support. I am blessed to have a grandmother who understood and gave me the ABC's of living as an empath in an often tumultuous world. The temptation of pairing with a narcissist is vital when you are an empath or empathic healer. You see the positive attributes in them, glossing over their frustrating and negative characteristics. You flow into the role of nurturer rather than a romantic partner. The feeling of being needed fills a space within you, where you feel you can change your beloved into the person you see they can become.
Nearly every empath I know has been through rough relationships after rough relationships. Believing they can change their romantic partner or love them enough to get them to replace their old negative patterning for that of healthy perspectives. Every romantic severing can leave you, the empath, feeling like there is nobody for you. The pattern usually escalates with the next person you are attracted to worse than the one you left. You might even be questioning can an empath be in a relationship. I am here to say there is someone for you! They will understand, support, and love you in the way you need and want!
So how DO you find a romantic partner as an Empath?
First Step
You start with yourself!
Having healthy boundaries and learning to clear the energy of those around you is your first essential step. An Empath is wired to clear negative emotions, let the feelings you feel flow out through your feet' soles. Use your breath to facilitate this. Breathe in through your nose and hold for ten seconds; exhale to a slow count of three through your mouth. Do this three times. Envision all the emotional attachments leaving your body, mind, and spirit.
If you want to lie down to do this, it is also quite useful. You are not here to fix the people in your life. You are here to love, empower, and support. Let this love and support be reciprocal. Give yourself permission to receive it. Learn to connect to your emotions rather than use those around you to feel that you are alive. It is easy to begin to use the energy of those around you as an emotional crutch.
Second Step
When people show you who they are (via your empathic filters), please believe them!
You can determine a great deal about a person based on the first narrative they offer you. If their first script is about being abused as children, they are not a romantic partner for you. You are already assigning yourself the role of a therapist in their life. You can make them feel better and move past the trauma with your love and understanding.
STOP!
This does not lead to a happy romantic pairing, but one of you becoming their caregiver. Why would they give up their story if it gets them a partner to take care of them? If you meet someone who listens to you, connects at a heart level, asks about your preferences and feelings, go ahead and date them. See where it takes you. Save the painful narratives for later, pour a strong foundation together.
Third Step
You have met the one that you wish to pursue a long-term relationship, so what now? Refrain from moving in together for at least a year. If you want marriage, please be engaged with a wedding date before living together.
Have them meet your empathic friends and aks for their feedback. Trust their insights, and take it seriously. Maintain your individuality, and continue to make time for your salt baths, meditations, nature walks, and soul-feeding activities. You do not have to have all the same common interests as a couple. Diversity can make the pairing even more beautiful!
If you do not want or need to be married, have clear boundaries on what you are together. Be incredibly CLEAR regarding communication and keeping all dialogues, text messages, and facetime about love, support, honesty, and encouragement for one another. If you sense the relationship becoming toxic, stop, and work through it rather than thinking it will just "go away on its own," for it will not. As an empath being in a toxic relationship crashes your immune system and opens you up to poor health. Your wealth is in your health, my friends, guard it mindfully! You can have the love you long for, my dear Empaths. Be choosy, keep a healthy boundary, and let the love flow in your life.
If you feel overwhelmed, let your romantic partner know what you need at that moment. In a loving pairing, you will get the space and time you need to resolve your feelings.
Thank you for sharing this time. I love you, and I believe in you.
In Divine Truth and Love,
Psychic Shira
Shira is a Psychic Medium and has been connecting to life-after-life since the age of 5. She offers loving, direct, and compassionate readings. Shira believes that your ability to manifest is unlimited. You can reach her at Meet Your Psychic at extension 1093.
